A Love Gone Wrong

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum:

"Jangan sibuk mengusik, andai tiada niat hendak memetik."

Muslim's Student Association or MSA for short. It is a good platform for muslims within the school campus to come together and organise beneficial events for the community; for the sake of Allah and Rasulullah s.a.w. However, I observed that it has almost become a trend, for some brothers and sisters in the association to get into a relationship with one another. By that I mean; a boy-girl love relationship. Sure, it is inevitable to fall in love because cinta itu fitrah, but be careful. Because this beautiful fitrah, might just turn into fitnah. ):

Just a little bit of sharing here from Sis Nazeera:

There are several reasons why some people are cautious about brothers and sisters hooking up within MSAs or the youth organizations. It may be a great place to ''stumble'' upon your future spouse as compared to other places but let the "stumble" be what leads to marriage. It's such a beautiful thing to happen if it does happen - it's like you're nurturing the next generation affiliated to the MSA or youth organization.

When you court someone without the intention of marriage and when the 'break-up' happens; hearts are broken. It's nasty, and it's sad. & then you'd begin searching for a new one, with hope that you'll find the most ideal one. If the 'break-up' happens again, the cycle repeats. When will it ever end? MSA or whatever platform suitable, may be a great place to start getting to know people you might actually end up getting married to. But that shouldn't be the ultimatum of an intention.

If pre-marriage efforts that is within the syariah; ie: ta'aruf(getting to know onw another) leads to nothing, then perhaps it could still be justified. But the difference between what is within the syariah and what isn't, is that: the halal relationship protects you from any form of damage(spiritual, emotional etc). & whatever that is haram, will cause you damage in the long run. This damage will not just damage you, but it will damage whatever that is around you too.

Take good care of your hearts. Our hearts. & the hearts of the other one. It's not healthy for you, and it's not healthy for your MSA. Dearest brothers and sisters; your youth group needs people to run it. You need people to manage it. It's like an organization of its own and it needs to be sustained so that our young Muslims have a group of people they can call home in ther Universities/Polytechnics etc if they can't find anything else. You, are an important part of it. You are crucial. You don't need someone to tell you these things. You being a Muslim, would make you realize about this on your own.

MSA is there for a "Muslim purpose". It's not there entirely for a "marriage purpose". Have frequent intention-renewal sessions, be honest about what needs to be rectified. There are ways to do things; we have Prophetic guidelines for an extremely good reason. Don't do yourself and your MSA an injustice by being a part of it. Don't be a part of MSA with an interest for interests can fade. But be a part of it with an intention for intentions can be nurtured. I am saying this as a youth myself and having seen a good amount of the damage done within Muslim youth groups really breaks my heart to no end.

Posting this to remind my flawed self first, and foremost.

The soul still seeking for peace,
Suhaidah Amran