My Doa'

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum

Title: Love to Jannah

" You don't think about dating anyone. You think about marrying someone. "

& I hereby live by that quote. I’ve never asked Allah to give me a specific person like: O Lord, please let me marry so and so. Hah, who am I trying to kid? Because you see, I used to make such a doa' too.

" O Lord, if so and so is the man whom you have written for me in Lauh Mahfuz, then I shall patiently await for the day where our hearts will eventually be brought together as one. But if it has been decreed that we're not meant to be together, then I beg that you bless him with a lady who is so much better than me in all aspects. O Allah, guard me from despair, for this heart is so weak and fragile. Verily, You know what that is hidden in my heart, better than anyone else does. "

And recently, I've realised that it was actually pretty silly for me to make such a doa'. I learnt not to make such a doa' anymore. No matter how much I’ve wanted to. Recently, I made it a point that instead of praying to Allah to grant me the man of my choice, I'll pray that He grant me someone whom I will love only for His sake, and that He'll grant me someone who will love me only for His sake. I gotta admit though. It's hard. It’s really, really, really a billion times really hard, biting back the name of the person whom you think might be right one for you. As a compensation for that, I pray to Allah for all goodness and happiness to be with that person and that He protects him from harm, and that He strengthen his eeman and that He gives him the strength to go through with this ordeal of life. I think it's better that way. I mean, Allah knows what's hidden in our hearts afterall and He knows what we really want.

Somebody may seem so, so, perfect on the outside. But only Allah knows what is in a person’s heart. He knows us best, and He will give us somebody better than we could have had picked out for ourselves. The right way to doa', would be to ask that He bless us with someone who is the best one for us. And see what He does. Subhanallah at the things that happens,when we put our faith and trust completely in Allah only.

He knows what we want, but He also knows what we need. Our sight may be limited, but His is infinite. Investing in Him, will never leave us poor. I keep reminding myself time and time again that Allah has already written the name of the person that I'm going to spend the rest of my life with; in Lauh Mahfuz. Nothing that I do, will ever change that. Perhaps, He has created barriers and obstacles in the path of meeting that person, to see how I react. Could what that I am going through now, be considered as a part of the barriers and obstacles that He has planned for me?

Will I be patient? Or will I start to fret and worry when something doesn't go my way? This is hard. It is hard seeing others getting married and being truly in love. & that, I'm actually referring to those who'd gotten themselves into a BGR relationship, before marriage. Things may not always be so perfect as they seem on the outside. They say, sabr(patience) & doa'(prayer), always works best. They always do. Prayer develops patience.

When we make doa' for something, or for someone, the doa' will either be accepted by Allah. If it is rejected, then perhaps we will be rewarded for it in Jannah instead. Otherwise, if none that we doa' for ever comes true, then it simply means that He is keeping it at bay, because He knows that what we had asked for, will only bring harm and danger to ourselves. Isn't that beautiful? Because eitherways, we still benefit from the doa'. So, let's doa' it up shall we?

& patience is the one vital thing tha tmost humans lack. I believe that Allah will give us a love sotry better than ony of the ones we've ever read about. Never ever let our trust in Him decrease. Remember. You are the only person you need to make yourself whole. Marriage is only for someone to give you support, love, and friendship to make you a better you. You are you, and you are enough.

There's someone out there who can help make you a better you. And insyaAllah, we'll find the right one. I pray that we all can have patience when it comes to waiting for the right one. And that He bless us with a half, who is righteous, and who will help us attain our ultimate goal in life; pleasing Allah, and help guide us towards Jannah.

Ya ukhti, the true guy, is the one who is courageous enough, to come up to your parents, and ask them for your hand in marriage. Ya akhi, the true lady, is the one who is courageous enough, to say 'no', to a BGR relationship, because it truly just shows how special she is than compared to the rest, because she is saving her heart for the one that will love her the most. Dear single muslims, to love, is to bring someone closer to Allah, and bring each other to Jannah.

There's no point in loving someone, but keeping a haraam relationship at the same time. Because then, you are dragging that person whom you love so much, into the wrath of Allah. Could you live with that? Honestly, I couldn't...  ]'=