The Pious Student

In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum

Title: The Pious Student

" I will only marry him because he has fear for Allah. And whoever has fear for Allah, cannot cause hurt to anyone. "

Beautiful. This is such a beautiful love story. I would like to call this, my own Islamic version of Romeo and Juliet. If we were to carefully look at the divorce rates in our own community these days, the divorce rates for many young couples are on the rise. And that is not surprising because that is what that will happen, if we marry a person for all the wrong reasons.

As humans, we are often attracted to beauty, wealth, and the social economic status of a particular individual. But we fail to realise that actually, beauty doesn't last. Monetary wealth can not save us from the Fires of Hell. A good social economic status on the other hand, does not guarantee us a place in Jannah.

I was walking home from a weekend night class one day, when a gothic themed 'under-the-void-deck-kinda-wedding', caught the attention of my eye. I have to admit, the wedding decorations were gorgeous. I bet it must've cost the couple a lot of money. This got me wondering. Is it really necessary to spend tens and thousands of dollars for a wedding? And then there's still the expenses for the honeymoon vacation, that needs to be taken care of. What exactly is the purpose of having such a luxurious wedding?

Some would say:

" Well, hello. This is a once in a lifetime experience. I want it to be a memorable one! "

" Because this is our special day. I want us to be happy. "

" It is a symbol of my love for her. It shows that I am capable of taking care of my wife."

" There is nothing wrong in having a luxurious wedding. It's not even a sin to begin with. "

" It would be so embarrassing if we were to hold a simple wedding y'know. "

" I've got the money. So why not? "

Some couples probably had even went to the extend of borrowing money from someone or from somewhere, just to ensure that their wedding will be that of a luxurious one. But wouldn't more money be needed for after their marriage? No? Then think about the house deposits and all that bills that you'll have to deal with after that. And in addition to that, say if you've borrowed tens and thousands of dollars from somewhere to fund your wedding, wouldn't that just add more burden to your financial worries? And when all these financial problems slowly start to show up, that is where misunderstandings and conflicts between a newly-wed couple will start to arise. And when there is no more room of tolerance for each other anymore, a divorce takes place. Naudzubillah.

Now you see the importance of financial planning? Now you see the difference between a need, and a want? Now you see how, even money could be the major cause of a divorce?

I may be only seventeen and so obviously, it is still too early for me to be even thinking about marriage. But in my opinion, having a luxurious wedding is really not necessary because what that lies ahead of the marriage is what that one should be more concerned about. It is not just about financial planning that we should be concerned about. We should also be concerned about the eeman of our partners. That should be our major conern. Marriage is not just about bringing two hearts together as one. But rather, marriage is actually just a means for us to reach our final abode; and that is Jannah. In a marriage, one should always help each other and remind each other about Allah s.w.t. Because, only when one truly learns how to love Allah, can one truly learn how to love an individual. InsyaAllah.